When we find ourselves with someone who seems 'good on paper, not so great in the flesh', we wonder where we've gone wrong. We wonder why we see such a different side to them. We wonder how they can be nice to others but not nice to us, or why they have loved others, but not us. It's also incredibly confusing to feel that someone is so 'right' for you and yet the relationship is struggling and you don't seem to be headed in the same direction.
What's missing is common primary values. You may have lots of interests in common, feel very attracted to them, and feel very connected, but if you don't share common primary values, you may have a lot in common, but you don't have the important things in common that make a relationship work and put you in the same common ground.
Values are critical to the success of your relationships and also being able to live your life authentically with boundaries and a decent level of self-esteem, and yet most people are focused on things that add little or no value to the relationship.
Get To Grips With Values & Value in Relationshipsis a follow up to the mini series I wrote on my blog, expanding on the original 5K (now 25K+)words and providing even more detail, insight, and tools to help you understand why your relationships haven't been working and what your values really are, so that you can align yourself with relationships that reflect you.
It is bundled with Get To Grips With...Common Ground in Relationshipswhich explains why when we don't understand the importance of values or the impact of misguided beliefs about ourselves, love, and relationships, we'll claim compatability with people who are incompatible with us, have dubious types, and claim common ground with people who we don't share common values with.
The bundle also includes two detailed worksheets.
Natalie Lue is the author of the Bagage Reclaim blog and the ebooks, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and The No Contact Rule. With well over a 100K readers a month, her blog and ebooks have become a much needed source of support for people who have previously felt alone and mystified by their relationship and self-esteem issues.